Things to Consider
Assisting someone with a mental illness can be challenging. Not only do you have to be a source of strength for your friend or family member
with the condition, you also have to be able to support yourself so that you are in a position to help others.
Some tips on how to help take care of others and yourself are listed below:
Supporting Your Loved One
When someone is diagnosed with treatment-resistant depression (TRD) or bipolar I depression, the person's friends and family may become his or
her caregivers with little education about mental illness. Family members must learn all they can about their loved one's condition to help the
individual better cope with needed changes.
Here are a few things you can do to support your friend or family member:
- Try not to get angry or upset when your loved one shows signs of depression or acts out. Remember the behavior is a symptom of a health
condition. It is not your loved one's fault; he or she cannot control it.
- Share your feelings. Dealing with mood and behavior disorders can be very stressful. Talk about your feelings with other family members,
trusted friends, or healthcare professionals.
- Make the most of each day. Treasure the relationships you form with those who are working together to support your loved one.
- Allow your loved one to take responsibility for his or her treatment. Your loved one will benefit from understanding why treatment is important
and from being involved in decisions about treatment.
- Encourage your loved one to stick with his or her treatment program. Things you might do include reminding the person to take his or her
medication, making a date to exercise or attending therapy together.
Finding Support for Yourself
Whether you are a supportive friend or a parent, caring for a person with a mental illness can sometimes be hard work. It's important to pay attention
to your own physical and emotional well-being during the difficult times. Remember, if you're stressed or rundown, you won't be able to help others. Some
suggestions for reducing or controlling stress include:
- Be realistic. If you feel overwhelmed by certain activities, learn to say no. You may be taking on more responsibility than you can or should handle.
- Do one thing at a time. Pick one urgent task, and take up the next one only after you finish the first.
- Share your feelings. Find love, support, and guidance from friends and loved ones. Don't try to cope alone.
- Seek professional help when you need it. A healthcare professional, spiritual advisor, or employee assistance professional may be good resources
for how to reduce your stress. They also may be able to suggest a professional counselor who can help you learn to cope.